Hakeem ibn Hizam reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The upper hand is better than the lower hand. One should start by spending on his dependents. The best charity is what is given by an independent person. If one would be abstinent, then Allah will make him abstinent. If one would be independent, then Allah will make him independent.”

Source: Sahih Bukhari 1361

Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

عَنْ حَكِيمِ بْنِ حِزَامٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ عَنْ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ الْيَدُ الْعُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنْ الْيَدِ السُّفْلَى وَابْدَأْ بِمَنْ تَعُولُ وَخَيْرُ الصَّدَقَةِ عَنْ ظَهْرِ غِنًى وَمَنْ يَسْتَعْفِفْ يُعِفَّهُ اللَّهُ وَمَنْ يَسْتَغْنِ يُغْنِهِ اللَّهُ

1361 صحيح البخاري كِتَاب الزَّكَاة خير الصدقة ما كان عن ظهر غنى وابدأ بمن تعول