Ramadan is coming up- and this is something wonderful to revisit right beforehand.
For all those who aren't aware what Ramadan is- it's the holy month in the Islamic calendar in which Muslims fast from sunrise to sunset, and in turn it helps reset the body's immune system as well as get rid of toxins.
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"I think it's really important to be friends with people who disagree with you. For one thing, that's how minds change. Years ago, I used to be Islamophobic. It wasn't because I was a bad person, I just didn't have any Muslim friends, so naturally I believed what I had been told. Once I got to know actual Muslims (and they fed me biryani) my mind changed. If those people had said "I'm not going to be friends with anyone who disagrees with me," I would still be an asshole. And worst of all, I never would have had biryani."
The problem with humanity can be summed like this: If we see some misguided person, the knee-jerk response is to condemn, to censure (rebuke someone harshly), to punish, to banish. Rather, when we see some misguided person, the knee-jerk response should be to guide, to teach, to forgive, to love. The right response doesn't come all that naturally; it requires spiritual training. That, to me, is the difference between true faith and mere ideology.
A comment in response to his post
"Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
If you are referring to TSQ, then I think you need to understand that when someone promotes falsehood, blasphemous falsehood, there isn't any issue publicly condemning it. In fact it is necessary. Would we prrach privately to missionaries before warning Muslims that Trinity is blasphemous? Adab is not "constanf, gentle behavior" but the right attitude at the right time. This cam range to anything from Abu Bakr freeing the slaves to Umar RA telling the enemy that their dead were in the fire and our dead were in Paradise."
He replied:
"Wa alaykum salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu brother,
What I am saying here is the “knee-jerk response,” the initial response should be towards mercy and gentleness and forgiveness. In this regard, the Prophet ﷺ said, “Allah is kind and he loves kindness in all matters.” (Sahih al-Bukhari 6528). And Allah sent Moses ﷺ and Aaron ﷺ to Pharaoh and commanded them to “speak to him gently that perhaps he will fear Allah or remember.” (20:44) This is the behavior Allah commanded with a man who claimed to be god.
There is a time to condemn evil deeds and to punish crime. But what I say is that the *initial* and *instinctual* response should not be to resort to such behavior in the first instance, as we must be patient and intend guidance and benefit for whoever is misguided. We should love for them what we love for ourselves. If we were misguided in their place, we would want someone to guide us with kindness, gentleness, and patience. Or as Allah said in the Hadith Qudsi, “My mercy prevails over my wrath.” (Sahih al-Bukhari 3022).
And Allah knows best."
Aisha reported: Whenever the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, would visit a sick person he would say, “Take away the pain, O Lord of mankind, and give healing for you are the healer. There is no healing but your healing, a healing that leaves no trace of illness.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 5351, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2191
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
عَنْ عَائِشَةَ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ كَانَ إِذَا عَادَ مَرِيضًا يَقُولُ أَذْهِبْ الْبَاسَ رَبَّ النَّاسِ اشْفِهِ أَنْتَ الشَّافِي لَا شِفَاءَ إِلَّا شِفَاؤُكَ شِفَاءً لَا يُغَادِرُ سَقَمًا
5351 صحيح البخاري كتاب الأشربة باب دعاء العائد للمريض
2191 صحيح مسلم كتاب السلام باب استحباب رقية المريض
Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen:
Some people say: "I will marry a woman is not religious, perhaps Allah will guide her at my hands."
And we say: "We are not entrusted with what will happen in the future. As for the future, we do not know about it. It may be that you marry her while desiring that Allah will guide her in your hands, however, it may be that she may change your state to what she is upon!"
Ref: Sharh al-Mumti' Kitab an Nikkah (p.14)
"Probably but if you have a strong emaan that Allah will guide her then thai is good enough because Allah is the most powerful He can make things happen... And Allah is the best planner,he puts people in your life for a reason, maybe that teason was for you to guide her, so we should always think positive and put our trust in Allah, he is the best planner..."
