Listen: if you are suffering in silence: stop. This is not what patience looks like. It is not what God is asking you for. The Prophet endured and patiently persevered but he never never stopped moving, stopped looking for a way out, a different path to a better situation. If it hurts, complain to the One who never tires and then get up and work. Do your part. Be your own advocate. Seek assistance. Be fearless. I'm not discounting the possible danger. Only telling you that we were put here for striving. Hajjar didn't sit and "suffer in silence"-- she was running. She was sweating. She was striving. That was your mother. You are more than the brokenness of this moment.